Failure teaches us to explore other possibilities, become resilient, strengthen our resolve and learn new, more successful processes in life. - The MOBSociety.comI am only now, 3 boys into this mothering thing, thinking there needs to be some order and teaching to our everyday crazy life. But I think I've got this natural consciences thing down. I am a very laid back momma. I don't fuss over dirty pacifiers or bumps or scrapes. In fact, it's not really a complete day until someone has a black and blue mark. I let my boys fail. If you fall off the couch while jumping to the next (and I've asked you to stop a few times), then you'll learn that it hurts to hit the hard floor and will do it differently next time (and now the cushions are never on my couch!)
Allowing kids to experience natural consequences and appropriate failure does not ruin them. It rescues them from an indecisive and entitled future. Allowing our sons to fail because they are making poor choices, creates humility. Letting them be brave - even letting them falter - creates character. - The MOBSociety.comI have experienced failure in my past. I've had jobs that just didn't quite click and I left theme behind, for something better. I went to college and have a degree in Chemistry but currently I change diapers and keep people alive. Life doesn't always work out the way you think it will. We need to be obedient to what God has out there for us, our Plan A is not always His Plan A. And so we fail, we learn, we change some things and then try again.
The Israelites wandered the dessert for 40 years because they "didn't get it". They had to experience things over and over again until they finally learned God's will is the best way. Same goes for us. We will continue to have failures over and over until we figure out how to just obey God's will the first time. We live in a fallen world and as much as we'd like to be perfect, we aren't. And neither are our children. And they will fail, repeatedly. Just watch a 1 year old try to walk. It can take days or weeks or months until they get it.
So let's land the helicopter, Mom, let's just love our kids through this life, but shy away from sheltering them from pain and suffering. And yes they will embarrass us (every time we go out!) but let's be real, every mom gets embarrassed and real moms don't judge other moms. We get it.
The MOBSociety.com is part of the Raising Boys Ministry. Erin Mooring and Brooke McGlothlin, co-author of Hope for the Weary Mom, started this Raising Boys Ministry to equip and encourage mothers of boys (MOB) to raise godly men. BoyMoms desperately need to know they're not alone, and it's our mission, our passion, and our calling from God to provide inspiration, motivation and practical tools to make raising your boys a little easier with friends by your side.